HOW TO USE HAPPINESS

This books is about happiness skills that we usually ignore unconsciously. The happiness expert Lee Kyung-chae(Hanna) is the happiest person in this society. She has a very happy family, children and grandchild. She has a very romantic husband who is very happy and wise. She also builds a good relationship with her husband. They love each other so much. They respect other person's needs and desires. They communicate well. This book will be the textbook for the people who want to have that kind of happy relationship.

Rome is not built one day. Hanna and her family did a lot of work to improve their relationship. When you read this book you will be happy in a moment. The writer's energy and devotion to make readers be happy now are written in all of the text. Lee Kyung-chae is learning and helping lots of people who are in trouble with family matters and personal issues. She provides some of the solutions to live happily in this hard and uncertain times. These days Korean divorce rate is increasing. Even though people are abundant these days, they are not quite satisfied. Happiness is not established by comparison, anger, frustration, fear and jealousy. Whatever arises, accept that. That is the beginning point of happiness. Happiness is already within you. You can pull it out and use it now.

Amazon Reader Ben's Review

I was fortunate to receive a copy of Lee Kyung-Chae's new book, 'How to Use Happiness'. It is a thorough guide to improving the reader's happiness, by improving and sustaining interpersonal relationships using better communication techniques.

Each chapter is dedicated to familial relationships; husband-wife, and parent-child, breaking out parent-child from the perspective of both parents to both sons and daughters. The chapters give examples and explain how the different relationships influence happiness and how the reader can improve their relationships by better communication in order to increase happiness.

Each chapter closes with two questions for the reader to consider and answer to expand self-understanding. The final chapters discuss using the earlier lessons to improve communication outside the family, and offer guidance on improving the reader's self by expanded reading and writing, arguing that the most complete route to understanding a subject is by reading, then writing about it.

This is a detailed book, but written in an easy to read, almost conversational style, and will help the reader who internalizes these lessons to improve relationships and happiness.


[Recommendation ]

"Guide for Recovery and Healing of Relationships" Ministers who lead the way in lifting families are broadly classified into theorists and doers. Lee Kyung-chae(Hanna), the author of this book, has a rich clinical experience in transforming couples. But she also wrote a book I want to keep, which is good enough to be used as a textbook equipped with good theory. The author, Hanna Lee, was a student who studied diligently ever since the days when I lectured as a professor at the Clinical Pastoral Research Institute after acquiring a doctor's degree in the US and coming back to Korea 29 years ago. She is also my pupil who is constantly exerting efforts in counseling and family ministry up to now as Healing & Counseling Institute was opened afterwards.

A psychologist claimed that the interest of the modern Christian is summed up into spirituality, personality type, inner healing, and happy family life through relationships. This book deals with these topics as well as relationships such as marital relations, parents and children, and adolescents, and is good enough to be used as a guide for recovery and healing. I have no doubt that the author's ministry will greatly contribute to making Korea a happy country and hence gladly recommend this book.

- Dr. Jeong Tae-gi (President of Healing & Counseling Graduate University)

Recommendation 2"Beautiful like a garden with a beautiful fragrance" I don't read a lot of books from our country. Even if I read them, I just have a taste of it for several minutes with speed reading. But then, once in a while when I get a feel that it is not an ordinary book, I read it intensively. Lee Kyung-chae(Hanna)'s "Life Recipe" had a different atmosphere from the very beginning. Since you can know the taste of beef only when you chew it well, Hanna's writing taste better the more you read it. I met Hanna through the season edition of "Christian Literature Tree" I run. Even though she started her career as an essayist, she challenged herself once again to write children's books which is a new genre for her and was recognized as a children's book writer. The career history of the author is impressive. Especially, her being recognized as a psychotherapist to many people through psychology research is impressive, and her taking graduate school course at United Graduate School of Theology is equally impressive.

In fact, writing is similar to a believer confessing one's sins to a priest because you have to pour out everything from inside of you. The only difference is that since a confession is performed secretly with a priest, one's wrongdoing is not known publicly, but writing is a confession poured out to everyone. So there are no secrets. Even if you use somebody else's writing without permission, a plagiarism dispute breaks out. Hanna's book, "Recipe for a Happy Family" is a piece of writing where the author poured out everything such as the life she has been living, one's studies, and literature. Normally, if you look at the vomit of a drunk person, it is smelly and disgusting, but this book is a book you want to keep close to you every day because it gives you a feel of taking a walk with a lover since it is beautiful like a garden with a beautiful fragrance. Hanna says happiness is not something far away beyond a mountain but something inside and around us by plainly expressing that happiness is getting along with people closest to you. So she enlightens us on how to get along with people close to you. Especially, she makes the reader think specifically with two points to think about at the end of each chapter. In summary, Hanna's writing is a confession as well as a research book written with 'the attitude of grinding an axe to make a needle' as she said in the conclusion. I want to compliment her on writing the book with an attitude of researching plainly like a painting 'a self-portrait' of her own face. I hope this book is published soon so I can keep it close to me.Pastor Shin Seong-jong CEO of Christian Literature Tree

Contents
Prologue ··················································· 7
Recommendations ········································ 12

Chapter 01
Cultivating the Heart of Husband and Wife
01 Let's understand your spouse's childhood ················· 17
02 Let's read the real inner self with intimacy ·················· 24
03 Enjoy the difference between man and woman ············ 31
04 Always attune your harmony when having a conversation · · 40
05 Read a book together as a couple ·························· 48
06 Discover the 〈Love Language〉 ····························· 54
07 Let's draw a clear love map ································· 62

Chapter 02
Cultivating the Heart of Father and Son
01 Live 'Here and Now' ········································ 69
02 Help Someone ············································· 78
03 Solve the assignment of the inner self with love ············ 84
04 A competent person learns how to stand on one's own ····· 93
05 Do not be afraid of a problem and confront it ·············· 98
06 It is good to give and forget ································ 102

Chapter 03
Cultivating the Heart of Father and Daughter
01 Wait until Critical Mass is filled ······························ 108
02 Make complementing and encouraging a habit ············ 113
03 Have a clear identity ········································ 118
04 Have a self-esteem of happiness ···························· 124
05 Coach yourself (Self-Coaching) ······························· 130
06 Learn diligently and give it to others ························ 135

Chapter 04
Cultivating the Heart of Mother and Son
01 Fill up the love tank ········································ 140
02 Rise up to the level of self-actualization ····················· 149
03 Change your mindset to be absolutely positive ············· 154
04 Open the future world with emotional intelligence ········· 159
05 Enjoy the gift given by nature ······························ 163
06 Happiness in something small is great happiness ··········· 169
07 If you think while running, your thought also races with you ··· 174

Chapter 05
Cultivating the Heart of Mother and Daughter
01 Train yourself with heart-pounding passion ················ 182
02 Find the hot button in your inner self ······················· 187
03 Make a personal brand with your own unique color ········ 194
04 Refine yourself like a diamond ······························ 199
05 Always come up with new recipes ·························· 206
06 Make as many memories as possible ······················· 214

Chapter 06
Cultivating My Heart How to Tend the Garden of your Inner Self
01 Write as if you are gardening day by day ···················· 224
02 Know people and the world by reading 10,000 books ······ 230
03 Be thankful with your heart and body ······················ 236
04 Remember the people who have helped you up to now ···· 244
05 Forget your age and always start anew ····················· 249
06 Think of yourself as a star ··································· 256
07 Live a rainbow life ·········································· 265

Epilogue ·················································· 271
Appendix
5 ways to enjoy a festive life

01 Be your one and only self in the world ······················ 275
02 Dream a dream of stars (☆) ································· 277
03 Love passionately ·········································· 279
04 Go on a trip that makes your heart flutter ··················· 280
05 Write about the garden of your inner self ··················· 282


Communication Style Inventory ······················· 284
Self-Esteem Inventory (SEI) ····························· 287

Lee Kyung-chae(Hanna) Hanna was born in Pyeongchang, Ganwon Province. She has graduated from Yeonsei Yeonhap Theology graduate school majoring in counselling. She is an expert of Family healing and recovery with having over 30 kinds of counselling certificates for 30 years.

She has gotten the Rookie of the Year award in essay and cosmos literature. She also has taken the New Fairy Tale Award in Christian Literature Tree. She has enlightened Korean literary spirit and gotten the prize of 100 writer's award in 2015. In 2016, she has got the main prize of cosmos literature. She has been active in various field of essay and children's story writer.

She has written over 30 books 'Life Recipe', 'Rich Habit of our Children', 'The Beautiful Memory of Danube River', 'The People who make me Happy', and co writer of 'A selection of masterpieces who enlightened Korea', Yearly collection of Essay, 'The Road to a literary society', 'The empty sky as it is', 'Coexistence of indifference', 'Wow, I am reading a fairy tale', 'The Bride of May' and so on.

She is the representative of Life Recipe Research coach and counselling CEO. She is active in reading club of Hongdae butterfly reading management and therapist in love your writing Biblio.

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